Value those who value you, and don’t treat those as a priority who treats you like an option.
One thing in life is a fact: you can’t make people like you! It’s all about you click or you don’t. You can’t make people value you the same way you value them. Sometimes you aren’t even an option! This I am suppose to have learnt by now, but no!
There are special days in your life when you like to spend it with people you really care about. People who you like, people who has made some sort of impact in your life. I have discovered that some people do not value my friendship the same way I (have always) valued theirs.
Sometimes you invite them way ahead of time to an event and they either don’t reply or only let you know on the last minute they can’t make it. Then it is always: we’ll have to do coffee sometime. And sometime never comes, either. I am not talking about a person who has a valid excuse of unforeseen things happening after they have accepted an invitation. I am talking about those who should have said NO right from the start.
A while ago a friend and I attended a charity function. We were looking at the ladies coming in, some see someone they haven’t seen for a while and it is screams of delight and “Hello, girlfriend! It’s so good to see you!” Etcetera, etcetera! We just caught each other’s eye and started laughing! We had the chat just minutes before after someone came in and reacted the same way towards her just before she moved on to the table where she was seated with the words “we must have coffee sometime”. The amazing thing is, this person drives past my friend’s house on many occasions. Sometimes see her outside and wave as she drives on. But never, not once, has she stopped to actually say “hello”. Why, in heaven’s name, will you then greet a person as if she is your best friend? False pretence shucks!
Although, time is really limited, I have discovered that I only have a handful of real friends who makes time for me as I make time for them. I don’t even always see them regularly, but we do make a habit to chat. I have few friends from the past that I really miss, and although some of them made an effort to spend a special day with me, they never invited me to spend a special day with them. I think the message is loud and clear and that one should not waste your time and energy on the ones who don’t value you, but rather spend that time and energy with someone who values friendship the same way you do. The growth of that friendship will be phenomenal as it will grow stronger and stronger.
I challenge you today … give your loved ones (friends and family) the same priority in your life as you would like to be in theirs. We don’t like to be an option, let’s not treat others like options.